Worry is in our nature. We all do it and some of us probably do it a little too much. I am a chronic worrier about all sorts of things and it’s so exhausting. I worry about money despite having a job, a home and enough savings to get me through pretty much anything, I worry about uni, I worry about that I’m not going to get a good job or be able to buy a house. Things a 22 year old graduate should not be worrying about. It’s like I spend so much time worrying, that I forget to actually enjoy anything and have to constantly remind myself to chill the fuck out. I’ve done a bit of research and it turns out, worrying is pretty bad for your health. So, I’ve put together a lil list of things you should do if you’re a chronic worrier like me!
Deal with the day you have in front of you
This piece of advice came from my mum and it helps SO much. I tend to get myself really worked up about what I’ve got going on next week, an assignment I have due on Friday, what time I have to get up on Monday – it’s ridiculous. I’ve got so much stewing in my brain all of the time and it makes me so stressed. My mum told me a few weeks ago to focus on what you have to do that day rather than anything that’s going to happen next week or next month. If I have an appointment or meeting in a few days – what’s the point in worrying about it now? Just focus on the day that you’re in right now, tick things off the list as they come and stop stressing that you’re going to miss the train. (Is that just me?)
What’s the worst that could happen?
When I’m getting myself into a knot, I try to think about what the worst thing that could happen is. Sounds counter-productive but it helps when I go “Lydia, if you miss the train – no one dies. You’re gonna be 20 minutes late and that’s it.” It helps to know that the worse thing that could happen really isn’t that bad. The same goes with uni. If I can’t finish an assignment to my highest standard – so what. I’ll get a lower grade? Maybe, but I’ll still graduate and that’s the only end goal that matters. The trick is to take some pressure off of yourself and get on with what you’re doing.
Make your day-to-day life a bit easier
I always stress about being late, getting lost, missing the train (can you tell that this is a BIG concern for me? Haha!). But if I can figure out ways to minimise the chances of these things happening then I feel a bit better. Plan your time a little bit better and you won’t be late. Figure out where you need to go before you set off and you’re not going to get lost. Get it into your head that trains come every 15 minutes and you need to stop being a psycho. Seriously. Take a little extra time to plan and you won’t run into little issue that set your day back.
Deal with a worry as soon as it comes up
Don’t let yourself stew over an unanswered question. Talk it out with someone who can give you the answer. Try not to talk to other people that are going to make you feel even less certain, go straight to the source and ask. Even if you don’t get the result you want, you know the answer and there is no uncertainty left.
Figure out if there is something that can be done right now to stop you worrying. Worried about a bill? Pay it right in that moment. You’ll feel relieved and you’ve done something productive. You have actively removed that worry. The same goes with anything you could be worried about. An assignment? Get started on it! And if you figure out there is nothing that can be done right this minute to remove that worry then stop worrying about it. If you can’t change the situation, stop wasting energy on it.
I hope these tips help! I think I’ll always be a worrier but I do need to chill. I’ve been trying to worry less and hope it helps me anxiety settle down a bit. Living in a constant state of stress is no way to live.
Thanks for reading!
Love, Lyd x